In the movie High Fidelity, Rob Gordon speculates at one point that, “Maybe it’s not what we’re like, but what we like that matters.” He is referring to things like movies and music being important rather than how people really get along. The theory is explored a little, but I think that it’s mostly just the momentary euphoria he was feeling in connecting with a gorgeous girl who did happen to like the same things as he did. For those who haven’t seen it I’m sorry, but he ends up with Laura in the end, the same girl that he’s trying to get over the whole movie, who doesn’t have quite the same entertainment palate, though she’s not in direct opposition to his in any way.
I’ve been thinking about Rob’s theory a bit because Double Champ made a comment a couple weeks ago about us probably disagreeing on a lot of things. The truth is that he and I often end up in very mild arguments over things in which we are inexplicably carrying on, yet arguing the same point. We don’t however see completely eye to eye on movies and music, though we have both shown a willingness to share in what the other likes as a means of spending more time together as well as expanding our personal entertainment scopes.
In the past I have dated guys (well, mostly just one guy) who have had pretty much the EXACT same taste in music and movies as my own. While it was amazing and we both commented on loving that it was easy to put music on because we could just hit shuffle on either of our MacBookPros (yes, even the same taste in awesome computers) and both of us would be happy, I am now wondering if it would have gotten boring. While this particular boy and I were able to introduce each other to a lot of new things for the short time that we dated, I can’t help but to think that our sources would soon become the same and we would have very little to share with each other. There was already so much that one would link the other to, only to find out that we’d already known about that artist.
I think I like this kind of sharing more. The kind where I have never heard of Chali 2na, but I go to a show anyway because he’s so pumped about it and find out that I really love this respectful and intelligent hip hop. I will admit that I had kind of expected to grin and bear something that I was only mildly interested in, but if that were the case I would not have gotten off of my rear and onto the dance floor.
So Rob’s pondering is fruitless. No, I shouldn’t say that. Rob’s pondering brings up a great point. Is it more important to like the same things, or to like each other? I’m oversimplifying and I know it, but that’s how I am interpreting it for this use. As he finds out in the end as well, I think it is more important to like each other, and allow that to lead to liking the same things, even if only because the other likes them.