Skip to content


The Charity Case

Friends and money? Are you kidding me 20 Something Bloggers and Charles Schwab? It’s like you’re asking us to share stories about how we combine oil and water. The two don’t really mix because we all want the more fun things to be what tie us together.

That doesn’t stop money from coming up as a factor in plans and socializing quite often.

I’m the broke girl in my group. Technically I’m the charity case now, I guess you could say. And with a score like 30 in your financial fitness quiz I guess there’s not really a surprise there!

It all started on March 6. There was a tourist-themed pub crawl to see our dear friend Mary off before she made her way down to South America for a few months. I was a little bummed because I had to work a mid shift that day and would be starting the crawl behind everyone else, which meant that I would have to be the annoyed sober person, or catch up quick, which can often lead to less than desireable results

As it turns out, I didn’t have to worry about that at all, since I walked into work at 1PM, only to walk out about 15 minutes later, having been fired. Turns out the being sick for like a month and a half didn’t go too well with holding a retail job.

The good news? I didn’t have to pay for a single drink that night, or for about a week and a half (and our group goes out at least twice a week). I did get really drunk that night though. There are some seriously red-faced pictures of me dancing to prove it.

The more surprising thing that happened that night was me agreeing to play dodgeball after having been a spectator only (and very adamant about not playing) for almost a year. I agreed because I knew that there were precisely two more girls needed for the following season, and while I was trying to talk my roommate into signing up she offered to pay for me if I would sign up with her. And now, after so long that I’d been fighting it and getting fired that day and not being able to pay for my own way, I figured I couldn’t really pass up the opportunity.

One season of dodgeball? you’re thinging, does not a charity case make. And I totally agree! I was stoked and my roommate was awesome. Did I mention that she had moved in only a week before this?

Anyway, that’s not really why I’m the charity case.

That title came with a text I got that looked something like this.

While I love Erin for this and love that I’m getting to play again, I did not hear about this at all until it was already done. Now that I have a little bit of an income, I plan on playing Erin back in full as soon as I can. I’ve got her on my little index card of debts to be repaid and I hope to be able to do that before the summer is over. Maybe I can pay for her next season!

I was initially very frustrated with the gesture, though thankful as well. Since then I have come to be comfortable with just taking it as it was intended, which was a kind and loving favor.

I guess in a small way I just disproved my original comment about friends and money not mixing. What worked for this situation is that it was a pretty small amount, and I didn’t really have to be put in the position of asking for it. Now let’s hope that I don’t have to be put in the position of needing it again, ever!

Disclaimer: This post is part of the 20SB Blog Carnival: Friends & Money, sponsored by Charles Schwab. Prizes may be awarded to selected posts. The information and opinions expressed in this post do not reflect the views or opinions of Charles Schwab. Details on the event, eligibility, and a complete list of participating bloggers can be found here.